Tag: Relationship
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Goodbye Mom
When She Goes When she goesIn her blue dressAnd pearls What will I do? When they send herInto the fireThe last I will see Of her How will I move? She’s all I can seeIn the ocean of my mindHer greyed hairHer drooping eyesHer tiredness Yet stronger stillIs her presence in meThe woman I knew30…
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Peaceful Thoughts
Notes from a Domestic Violence Trauma Survivor Below is a letter I had addressed to Redemption Hill Church – the church I was attending and an active member of, and which I had turned to when I was violently assaulted by my ex-husband of eight years. (hereafter I will refer to him as ‘the ex’)…
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Are You Good Enough? Part II
This is the follow up to my first article on the question that many people wrestle with in life, “Are you Good Enough?” Keeping Your Peace The context of this article is focused on preserving your peace and maintaining your mental-wellness when dealing with people who are very different from you and who may not…
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Wishing Well (Tell Me)
Have you ever wondered how to tell a woman your feelings about her? Here’s a little song and some insight as to how you might approach her.
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Are You Good Enough?
Struggling with feelings of never being good enough? Read this article to heal yourself
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Time Underwater
I wish we had more time together Things would look so different underwaterWhen you consider all the waysThis tale could unfurl Can you imagine a different world? One structured byThe raw materialsOf hope, love and truthWhere people can see Beyond their fears Where things unsaid aren’tMade to degradeWhere words and their shadesDon’t obscure but create…
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Praxis
What does retraumatization and gaslighting in church look like? This is my own account of what I went through as a victim and survivor of domestic violence. I have since left this church.
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“ I’ll Be Back” (Deep, low growl, Austrian accent)
I am reading a book now – it’s called, ”Show Your Work” by Austin Kleon. I found out about this book from a YouTuber, Ali Abdaal who has a very lucrative and active YouTube presence all the while holding down a full-time job as an M.D. He was talked about how he was really inspired…
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No Say
When I was born, my parents sought the help of a Chinese naming expert to give me an appropriate Chinese name. Neither of them spoke mandarin particularly well – a legacy of their unique family histories . Even through my Father came from a Chinese speaking family, his father decided not to “put all the…
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The Beloved
A long time ago, there lived a girl in a castle. It was an ivory tower, tall, pale and lonely. Encircling the castle was a huge and thick gray wall, dark and foreboding. It was made of heavy grey bricks so closely melded together it seemed to be one gigantic monolith. No matter how far…
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What Are Champagne Problems?
As I reflect on the different facets of my relationship with my ex-husband, and the nuances of abuse in our relationship, and as I consider all of the ways I was complicit in keeping the charade of a relationship going with him for 10 years of my life, I have been listening to Taylor Swift…
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Nice Girl
Is your niceness holding you back from what you really want and need from life? What does being kind to yourself look like?