Tag: emotional abuse
Are You Good Enough?
Struggling with feelings of never being good enough? Read this article to heal yourself
Who Are You?
This poem is about my father who passed away from pancreatic cancer in 2015. He died within 6 weeks of his diagnosis. After announcing his condition through email, he refused to see anyone for two whole weeks. He was a very independent and proud man who wanted to take care of business before letting people…
What does retraumatization and gaslighting in church look like? This is my own account of what I went through as a victim and survivor of domestic violence. I have since left this church.
Get Comfortable Feeling Fear
How to overcome your fears and live deeply.
When I was born, my parents sought the help of a Chinese naming expert to give me an appropriate Chinese name. Neither of them spoke mandarin particularly well – a legacy of their unique family histories . Even through my Father came from a Chinese speaking family, his father decided not to “put all the…
In 2015 while I was raising $10,000 USD for a Kickstarter to create my debut album as a Singer-songwriter, a friend of mine asked if I could cover ”Tongue” by R.E.M. It was a reward for one of the higher pledging tiers. I gladly covered the song, never really wondering what it was about, thinking…
A long time ago, there lived a girl in a castle. It was an ivory tower, tall, pale and lonely. Encircling the castle was a huge and thick gray wall, dark and foreboding. It was made of heavy grey bricks so closely melded together it seemed to be one gigantic monolith. No matter how far…
What Are Champagne Problems?
As I reflect on the different facets of my relationship with my ex-husband, and the nuances of abuse in our relationship, and as I consider all of the ways I was complicit in keeping the charade of a relationship going with him for 10 years of my life, I have been listening to Taylor Swift…
Ever felt like a relationship you had was like a stone in your shoe? What does it mean? How do you make sense of it. What’s really going on? Is it your fault?
As if life wasn’t hard enoughYou and I danced a beautifulDance of dysfunction As I look backThere were all these signsBut why did I ignore them? Was it because I wasDrawn to the fireAs a moth is drawn toThe flame? You told me life was preciousBut you didn’t knowJust how precious it wasUntil you walked…
How many lives can you leadHow many languages can you speakHow many worlds can you live inHow many stories can you tell If you live in a shell How many times can youKeep learning the same lesson? I would rest easy ifI knew you were mine to keep But you’re a childOf the universeFree and…
How Do I Let Go?
How do I let goOf someone that was never thereA person that was not realA conceptI fell in love with And did 10 yearsOf my life with? Flesh and bloodDust specks all aroundHe sat in frontOf the computer screen He was mineMine to holdMine to loveMine to touch I was hisHis to useHis to plunderHis…
You try to be kindYou try to be goodBut have you been kindTo yourself? Have you thoughtAbout how muchYou can bearHow much you can carry? The only crossYou ever needed to carryWas your ownYet you had no time for that You see the sadnessAnd loneliness in othersBut do you seeThe devastation in your own heart?…